Playing behind the click without slowing down
Keep the pulse steady while listening to where the snare sits.
Playing behind the beat describes how notes sit against an established pulse. It does not mean lowering the tempo or waiting longer on every beat. If your whole groove moves farther from the click as the bars pass, you are slowing down rather than holding a consistent placement.
Establish a reference take
Choose a comfortable tempo and record eight bars of a familiar 4/4 groove with the click audible in the recording. Start by placing kick, snare and hi-hat clearly against that pulse. Check that the first and last bars stay together before experimenting with feel.
Listen for uneven eighth notes or a fill that changes the tempo. Those need attention before a subtle placement exercise will tell you much.
Compare a relaxed backbeat
On a second take, keep the kick and hi-hat steady while trying a slightly later snare on 2 and 4. Use a small change that you can hear consistently. This is a listening experiment; there is no prescribed delay in milliseconds.
Compare the takes with the bass part or backing track. Does the second feel relaxed, or does the snare sound disconnected? If the hi-hat slows down too, return to the reference version and reduce the change.
Choose the feel with the band
A laid-back snare can suit one arrangement and make another feel heavy. Ask the bassist and leader to hear both versions rather than assuming worship music needs one placement. Keep agreed tempo changes separate from the experiment and confirm the groove through the chorus as well as the verse.